Why strong women sometimes turn men off

I’ve always heard from powerful women that men are intimidated by them.  But I’ve been hearing this complaint more than ever before.

I saw two women in the supermarket.  One was complaining to the other about men.  I was wearing my “Men are Weird” t-shirt and the woman (we’ll call her Abigail) pointed out that she didn’t understand them at all.  I mentioned the work that I did and Abigail started to share her story with me.   It was a story I had heard so many times before.

Abigail complained that men just didn’t ask her out again after the first date, although to her things had gone very well.  When I asked her why she thought that was, she told me her thoughts were that the men were intimidated by her.  She had a successful career and liked to take care of things herself.  She didn’t know why the dates didn’t go better than they did.

I mentioned to Abigail what I know to be true about men – strength in a woman is very attractive.  If you’re strong, secure and know how to get things done, you’ll have no problem attracting men.

But there are a few things that turn men off, such as…..

1. Needing to have your own way all the time – There’s nothing wrong with education but just because you’ve got a degree doesn’t mean things always have to be done the way you say them.  If you require everything to be on your schedule all the time, this can be a real turn off.
2. Treating your date like an interview – The first rule of dating is to have fun and try to connect with the other person as much as you can.  Yes, you should be asking questions but only questions that you really want to know the answers to, not because you want him to know he’s being evaluated.  If you must think of the date as an interview, consider the fact that you are both interviewing each other, not just you interviewing him.
3. Insisting that you do everything yourself – Strong women have nothing to prove, so there’s no need to demonstrate to your date that you can handle everything by yourself. You should know before you start dating what you like men to do for you and what you prefer to do yourself.

As a fellow strong woman, I understand the tendency to do all of these things, but believe me – they will push men away instead of pulling men to you.

Have you noticed anyone doing these things?  Have you been guilty of doing these things yourself?  Leave a comment and let us know!

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